Pet Cremation 101: What You Need to Know to Make an Informed Decision
Every time I euthanize a patient, I have the excruciating task of asking the client if she'd like to receive her loved one's ashes.
Although most of my clients have already prepared for this moment, some haven’t had the opportunity — as in the case of sudden death. Hence the word “excruciating.”
It's probably why I decided to begin talking to my clients about their death options before their pets’ deaths.
Thinking About Cremation in Advance
I actually adopted this new approach on the express recommendation of a client who'd suffered through one of these devastating conversations. She’d felt strongly that the process would have been easier on everyone if she’d had the chance to think about these things ahead of time. I couldn’t disagree.
The problem is there aren’t too many options, because most pets are euthanized by injecting them with drugs we’d rather not introduce into the water table and most municipalities have laws that forbid the interment of noncremated pet remains.
This is why the No. 1 decision with most pet patients involves whether to cremate them communally with other pets or individually, also known as private cremation. In the former case, your pet’s ashes can't be returned to you, since they are mixed with other ashes. In the latter, your pet’s cremains will be returned to you (usually within a week). If you’re unfamiliar with the term, cremains are what’s left of a body following cremation.
According to the Cremation Association of North America, the cremation rate in the United States rose from 15 percent in 1985 to 27 percent in 2001. By 2020, it’s predicted that more than half of all Americans will elect cremation for themselves or their family members.
For many people, choosing cremation comes down to its lower price, the reality of more moveable lifestyles and the relaxation of religious mandates in favor of interment, but I think some of it can be attributed to a greater familiarity with cremation — especially given that many pet owners have sent their beloved animals to a crematorium instead of a spot in the backyard.
Of course, that doesn’t mean cremation is an obvious alternative for all pet owners — or that we’re all comfortable with the process. In fact, cremation is still a tough concept for many pet owners, who have plenty of questions. Here are five I'm asked regularly and here are my very frank answers.
1. How does cremation take place?
Cremation is a thermal process that reduces an animal's remains to bone fragments. It takes 30 minutes to two hours for most pets. The final step is to pulverize any remaining bone fragments (they are not totally consumed), producing the finer ash that pet owners receive.
2. What will my pet’s ashes look like?
Ashes will usually be a gritty gray substance that comes wrapped in a plastic bag within a sturdy box. You can choose to bury the box as-is, spread the ashes in your pet’s favorite spots or transfer the remains to a box of your choice for safekeeping. Pet crematoriums also offer urns for sale or you can supply one of your own for the crematorium to deposit the ashes into.
3. If my pet dies at home, do I have to take her to the veterinarian for cremation?
Some cremation services will pick up deceased pets from their homes. Ask your veterinarian whether his trusted service offers this option for pet owners.
4. How do I know the ashes I get are really my pet’s?
Your veterinarian has probably worked with the same pet cremation service for many years, so he'd be the best person to ask. Private cremations are the lifeblood of pet crematoriums, so why would they jeopardize their professional reputation?
Our local Miami pet cremation service, Pet Heaven, has a great offering for pet owners who want to be 100 percent sure that their pet’s cremains are really theirs: They allow owners to come to the crematorium and actually see their pets get cremated. How’s that for integrity?
5. What do you do with your own pets?
This is the most common question I get when pet owners are undecided over how to handle the whole issue. It’s not one I have an easy answer for, since every single pet I’ve owned has received a slightly different treatment. But I always get cremains. That way, I feel like I have the freedom to treat each of my pets as a complete individual after his death.
Here’s how I treated some of my dearly departed pets in the past decade:
Bruno and Agatha, my two Boxers, passed away almost exactly 10 years ago, just six months apart. They were so attached to one another that I commingled their ashes in one vessel.
Marcel was my first French bulldog. His ashes are still in a box, deep in a drawer. I just don’t know what to do with them yet, but it will come to me. Marcel drowned and I still feel so guilty, so maybe I just need a little more time to process it.
Sophie Sue's French bulldoggy ashes are buried under the “Sophie Tree,” a struggling satin leaf that I planted in my yard. I had the cremation service get a special headstone in her honor. The whole effect is cute but somehow stately, just like Sophie.
Tulip's remains — all 15 pounds of them — actually inspired this post. Pets’ cremains typically top out at 5 pounds, but if you’ll remember from a previous post of mine, Tulip died of a sand impaction — and sand does not burn. So, along with Tulip’s ashes, I also have what killed her in the mix. I know that sounds awfully depressing, but think of it this way: At least I know for sure I have Tulip’s ashes.